Saturday, September 05, 2009

The Power of Friends

As y'all know, I went through this stupid divorce and things were not perfect for a while and even although things are much better now, I am still untangling many messes leftover from my former life. One of the messes being this house. Somehow I'll have to sell it, and I found myself totally unable to get going on a bunch of bigger projects for it, and there was much wailing and gnashing of teeth and don't forget the whining.

I was very hesitant to ask for help, because we all know I am supposed to be supermom and needing help is just showing weakness and people would think I am a bad person for even contemplating the possibility of asking for help. For a while I wallowed in my self pity and found out that that wasn't the place I wanted to be. I decided to take a deep breath, and ask for help, opening myself up for ridicule, because people wouldn't want to me to sit at their lunch table anymore for sure!


I asked for help and friends came over and helped me and now life is good! This morning, I got up and I was in total despair, having NO idea how to get on top of this mess of trying to sell the house. I wanted to crawl back in bed with a good book and hope the house would go away by itself. Which would have made it kind of hard to stay in bed with a book now that I think about it, but maybe, just maybe, my thinking was just a tad disorganized.

People started showing up and we got started and I was amazed how much everyone accomplished. Some friends switched the furniture of two rooms so that we now have a living room where there should be a living room and a study where there should be a study. This morning I had NO idea we would even get started on that particular project. We moved out a desk for the ex which he picked up today so that is yet another task DONE.

Flyingfisher found our brick walkway under the raspberry bushes and we pruned evergreens and the front of the house looks so much better already, even if not perfect yet. I sent my sister out for pizza and chrysanthemums and even although the house still is in crappy condition, it has TONS more curb appeal now.


I baked cinnamon raisin bread and we ate pizza to reward ourselves for our hard work and later I spent some lovely time with my sister, drinking tea, discussing all the universe's problems and agreeing that this universe is a pretty darned good universe.

And strangely enough, the task of selling the house has been transformed from an insurmountable mountain to an accomplishable project. Gotta love how one day with friends can change one's perspective.


The power of friends!

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Amy said...

This is such wonderful news! I'm so happy for you, glad that you are feeling more upbeat now, and grateful that you have so many amazing friends!

Annelies said...

't is allemaal héél herkenbaar... je gevoelens, de vrienden.... been there, seen it all...